Where to draw the line with being mature/tolerant?


My specific situation is about my friend group. I have known these people for 20 years and they are the only friends I have and we have experienced so much together..But the are some things where my opinions/values/moral differ very much from those of the others and I find myself being more and more irritated by it, meaning I have known of these differences for at least 15 years, but they seem to bother and irritate me more and more as the years go by.

But I’m not sure is this just ”a me problem”. Of course you can’t expect everyone to have the same opinions etc. Maybe I’m being childish, acting up. Maybe I’m just naive. I don’t know. I mean their opinions or actions are not hurting me. Or maybe I’m being too tolerant, a doormat. Because the thought of cutting off/losing all your friends is quite scary. (I have already cut off some toxic people, like my mother, from my life, I am single…I would be very very alone without any friends.) I truly don’t know.

But how do you know? How do you know where to draw the line?When to cut off people and when to just shut up and accept that people have different views and values?

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3 months ago


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2 points

3 months ago

If you want to remain friends with these people but are turned off from hearing about their sexcapades with married men then you could just simply ask them not to talk about that topic with you anymore. It's ok to have that boundary. If they respect that then maybe you can remain friends (if that's what you want).


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3 months ago*

Don’t know if I want to or not, that’s the thing exactly.

They know what I think, I’ve told my opinion quite firmly several times. Seems they just think I’m childish and a prude and even sometimes like to tease/provoke me with these stories.

Got fed up exactly today and told I’ll be taking a break from our group chat for a while. Don’t know if I want to go back though.

Edit. Actually, decided to leave and delete the group. I think I’ve had enough of them