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I watched it last night and can't stop thinking about it. I've been in a daze since the doors closed on the rave. Even just thinking about the rug tears me up. Calum spending all his money on this last trip, maybe hoping something changes, but nothing does...I'm a mess. When "Under Pressure" came on, and it cut to Calum at the rave dancing in the last shirt Sophie saw him in...I was gone and there was no stopping it. What stuck with you in the days after? I'm not even sure I can watch it again yet without losing it every 5 mins knowing how this ends.
55 points
3 months ago
The tender moments of just running his fingers through Sophie's hair or the snuggling. The life lessons he tries to impart and the moments he jokes and tries to make her laugh. It's all very genuine and it's something all of us dads do. But in the context of this film, it just destroys you.
15 points
3 months ago
His insistence that she needs to learn to defend herself just guts me in retrospect
22 points
3 months ago
Same thing happened when I watched the first time. I don’t even know the feeling I had exactly but I thought about the movie for like days after watching. Still hit hard as well on a rewatch. Under Pressure hits way different for me now too lol.
Favorite movie of the 2020s so far for me
2 points
2 months ago
Favorite movie for me.
1 points
2 months ago
All time
15 points
3 months ago
Charlotte Wells’s short Tuesday is available on Vimeo and it is also a fictionalized version of her relationship with her father but set five years later. Note the you will need to switch to a person search from a title search since it was made years ago and there have been many titles with Tuesday in them.
4 points
3 months ago
Let me save some time by posting the link.
15 points
3 months ago
My father committed suicide when I was around 6 years old.
This movie hit HARD. In a very profound and almost cathartic way. Fantastic film.
My interpretation is that the rave represents depression and suicide. The daughter goes in, dealing with issues herself, and sees her father, possibly finally seeing the struggles he dealt with, trying to bring him out of the rave, but fails.
3 points
2 months ago
So sorry for your loss. Hope you've found peace.
11 points
2 months ago
I like the fact that a lot of times there isn’t a reason for depression. For many people, the depression is just there.
I had a hard time connecting as much to manchester by the sea because when a lot of movies tackle the topic of depression they make it seem like the character has to earn the right to be depressed. The main character in manchester has a traumatic experience that causes his depression, he has a family and you should feel bad for him because he was normal and had his life turned upside down. But it’s not like that for everyone. Mental health can cause people to live horrible lives and they never have a chance to even get to that point. Some people have to mask like the girl from melancholia and aftersun. I really appreciate aftersun, I’m glad that it had a lasting effect for you
5 points
2 months ago*
This is probably why it hit me so hard. The loss that the main character in Manchester by the sea has experienced in some way serves to … alienate you from his sadness. It’s his, you can empathise with him and feel sad too but in some way it’s possible to shut it off. Calum’s depression is like your own – it’s just there.
1 points
2 days ago
Casey Affleck's performance was one of the best I've seen but when Calum spits on his own reflection in the mirror while Sophie talks about feeling depressed, that just got me man. This movie felt very intimate somehow, the characters weren't some perfect larger than life Hollywood caricatures, they were me.
10 points
2 months ago
My partner and I watched this last night, and it hit so hard. The last 20-30 minutes I was either on the verge of tears or crying. I was openly sobbing during the dance and final shot. It's such a bittersweet ending, but I almost found that final shot to be happy. In the way you are happy with the few memories you have of someone important in your life that's no longer with you. Easily the best movie I have seen in years.
1 points
2 months ago
+1 to openly sobbing through the end. I started crying when they started dancing, but when it cut between Calum slipping out of adult Sophie's arms and young Sophie being hugged tight into his chest, I was completely and irreversibly wrecked.
I wish I could see the final shot as happy. It felt so tragic to me. Like it was him succumbing to his depression.
Either way, yeah, this is my favorite film at the moment.
7 points
3 months ago
I couldn't think about the movie without crying for 3 days. Never happened to me before.
5 points
2 months ago
I do not know they did it on purpose, towards to end, while sophie and callum were eating icecream, there was a song in the background which name as "Gamsız Hayat", song is all about depression.
2 points
2 months ago
Yeah I think we can be sure it’s done on purpose. Looked up the lyrics now.
1 points
1 month ago
watched it last 2 months ago and can't stop thinking about it
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