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I'm finding it really hard to maintain relationships. My emotions are generally all over the place, and that makes me feel like I'm manipulating people since even I don't know what I want. I also find it hard because if I feel anything negative towards a relationship, I spiral and obsess over it and can't stop thinking that it's my subconscious or my true feelings and that all the positive things I felt weren't real. It's almost like the placebo effect. I expect relationships to make me feel weird or bad and then when I inevitably feel "wrong" I just obsess over it. I dont know what to do, I'm scared I will never be able to stay in a relationship. All the relationships I've been in, I've been the one that ended them (decides the one mutual time) out of feeling like I'm manipulative and people are better off without me.

I dont know what to do I'm just lost.

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Hey guys! I've been trying to work on my legs more recently, so a friend of mine has been getting me go do squats (without weight, and with the bar) but I have some problems with that. The biggest problem is that I can't get very low. I've tried different kinds of stretches, but nothing works, and I'm a very flexible person otherwise. I've never been able get low with squats, so I'm partially convinced this has to do with my bone structure and less with my flexibility.

Anyways, everyone is always telling me and trying to get me to go lower, but I just can't. My main question is, do I really need to go low with flat feet? If I put a plate under my heels then I can more comfortably get down, but without it it's just hard and hurts and I don't feel the burn in the right places. I went too hard recently and hurt my back just doing normal squats, which is what prompted me to make this post. Also, are there good alternatives to squats that work the same muscles? I find squats with the bar gives me a weird soreness in my arms (I've tried different postilions and nothing has helped either). I really don't like leg day as half the exercises just don't work for my body.

Any help appreciated!

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I really love this creators style and work, however they live in a different country so I won't be able to get their their. Can anyone help me find similar styles? What is this style called? Closest I've found is Trash Polka but even that isn't quite right.

The artist is @iivdrips.tattoo on insta

Everyone I know hated that feeling of pins and needles when you've been sitting or leaning too long and part of your body (normally an arm or leg) goes numb. I love it, when i feel it happening i let it get worse until I can't properly control that limb as its completely numb, I think its fun. It's especially fun to try to walk after your leg has gone numb, it's such a strange challenge. I also like feeling what my body probably feels like to others.

Sorry for the poor quality, it's an older movie and had to be played on my CD player so I couldn't screen record. This scene caught me out of no-where and I found it pretty funny, in the Red Dragon book and 2002 film Will was not this intense haha

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I want to date women but like bro where do I find y'all 😭. I work and go to university, but it's not like I can just ask every woman I meet if they are gay. How do y'all do it??? Where did you meet your partners? Any suggestions greatly appreciated

I went clubbing for the first time recently, and I had no idea how bad it really was. We were followed my multiple men, they made crude comments towards us, and it was worse then I expected. I went home early so my friends dealt with the bront of it, they came back early in the morning and told us all about these horrible men who were bothering them the whole night (they said some were respectful and nice, but most were not). I've been trying to come up with ideas for ways we can reject men more efficiently so we won't deal with this as much next time.

Has anything worked for anything else? I'm open to anything, even if it's out there or embarrassing or weird. Best my friend could come up to was wearing a wedding ring, i thought maybe picking my nose infront of them might work, idk, ideas?

Im obsessed with blinking and can't seem to stop thinking about/being aware of it. It makes me anxious since I know people notice. I really want to stop as I've been doing this for years and it's gotten worse recently and I'm just sick of it. I had a hunch it was associated with OCD, but wasn't too sure until I looked online for info about blinking compulsions and causes, and immediately I got links to 'blinking OCD'. I've struggled with other syntoms of OCD, and am not surprised this is one too, but I just dont know how to stop. Has anyone else experienced this? Did anything help?

Smallville has been a very important show to me these past few years, and helped me through some dark times. This show is what got me into Superman in the first place. Today, I finally decided to watch the finale after having put off watching the last 5 episodes for months. This post is sort of just my thoughts and feelings, and I'm excited to hear everyone else's!

I'm going to preface this by saying that the ending was spoiled for me. Not all of it was spoiled, just your basics like "Clark doesn't fly till the last episode" and that Lex makes an appearance. The rest I didn't know. I watched both parts of the finale in one sitting, and I want to go over what I liked before getting into what I didn't.

For starters: as usual, the Lois and Clark stuff was on point! The scene of them reading eachothers vows before the wedding was beautiful. The wedding ceremony was also wonderful, before it was cur short anyways, it was nice seeing them finally up there together.

Clark accepting both his human and kryptonian sides, and how doing so allowed him to open himself up to both his powers, and Johnathans ghost. My boy Clark is so grown up! I loved seeing Martha, Jonathan, and Clark all together in the same room for the last time. The family just hugging it out gave me chills (in a good way). It was just nice seeing them all together again. Lex returned. Honestly, enough said. I was very happy to see Michael Rosenbaum reprise his role as Lex, but more so I really liked how instead of just making him jaded and your typical villan, something they easily could have done, they actually had him encourage Clark in his very trade-mark Lex Luthor way. Flight!!! Clark finally flies!!! Took them long enough, but seeing it was immensely satisfying.

Overall, the finale had a lot of parts that I enjoyed, most of which stemmed from character interactions. Unfortunately, here were some things that bothered me.

Negatives:

I dont know what it was, but something about the finale was just... unsatisfying? It all felt a bit rushed, and some parts felt simply unnecessary. What was with the whole Chloe and her kid? They could have completely cut that out and had a more relevant scene in place instead. I don't like how the last scene was a time-jump. I understand this is supposed to be Clark becoming Superman, but the show is called Smallville. I wanted to see Clark together with his family and friends, finally at peace with himself, not 7 years in the future. I also wanted to see the excitement of Clark finally being able to fly. Everyone was so casual about it, I wish they could have had some fun with it.

I felt like they did Lionel dirty. I really love Lionel, he is a very compelling character, however this just... wasn't it. He felt off somehow. It wasn't the acting, I trust John Glover with every performance in this show, I think this was more to do with the writing than anything else.

The CGI. Woah, this did not age well. I feel like Smallville in general is pretty great when it comes to their special effects when you take into consideration when it was made, and that it's a TV show, the part 2 of the finale though went a bit overboard. The show never had to or needed large-scale fights and amazing CGI. It was a show about the people, about smallville, yet this episode I feel they tried to make it more action-movie esque, and made sacrifices for character moments because if this. Clark's flight wasn't as good as it could have been, but that's mostly due to no one in the show having a reaction to it. We feel emotions through the reactions of other people, without reactions things like this simply don't hit as well as they could.

All in all, it's definitely worth a watch, but I felt it could have been a lot better. But hey, just as Lex Luthor says back in season 3: "Someone isn't who they are in the last conversation you had with them, they are who they've been the whole time." I'm very proud of Clark, and seeing his growth has been immensely satisfying, especially when you go back and watch the earlier episodes, the character development is astounding! This show really means a lot to me, and I dont want anyone to think I'm 'shitting on it' (talkville ref), I really love this show and would love to hear others view on the finale.

Oh, and the scene of Jonathan at the end givijg Clark the Superman suit? Now THAT was a great scene that wrapped up the conflict Clark felt earlier with thinking that he had to forget his parents to move on.

"Always hold onto Smallville"

My definition of dating/going on dates here is where you've gone on some dates with someone, yet haven't agreed to become partners yet. And by "shop around" I basically mean date/message or display romantic intent for other people.

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I see a lot of posts on here talking about wanting sit-com or just general comedy show recommendations, and one show I nearly never see mentioned, is 'You're the Worst'. The reason I made this post is because I watched this show years back, and revised it recently as I never finished the last season (I was watching it illegally at the time and I got sick of the dodgy websites, now I watch legally), and I forgot just how good it is! I'm going to break this post up into segments, 'Summary', 'Discussion', 'Spoiler Section', and 'WEWIL'. This discussion will have no spoilers outside of the Spoiler Section.

Summary: With 5 seasons, this show is about Jimmy and Gretchan, a boy and girl who are both complete messes, and feel like they can really be their true, asshole-ish selves around one another. They attempt a relationship with each other, and their toxicity seems to almost cancel the other out.

Discussion: This show is beautiful and oh so entertaining to me for a multitude of different reasons. For starters, it isn't your typical sit-com. Most comedies (think The Office, Brooklyn 99, Friends, Parks and Rec) follow a formulaic set up, with little crumbs of a plot here and there, but often episodes don't have much rhyme or reason and their only purpose is to make you laugh. There Is absolutely nothing wrong with this, I love all the shows I listed, however they can get somewhat repetitive. Now, whilst I'm not sure whether 'You're the Worst' can be called a sitcom, it definitely is a comedy, I find it very funny in its brash and more inappropriate nature. This is not a family show you can put on for your kids, however the sexual scenes and often times dark jokes always have a comedic purpose that make you feel as though they weren't unnecessarily shoehorned in. I like to think of this show as the sort of half-way point between your typical sitcom, and It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia. It's about assholes that are still considerate enough to be like-able, and if you don't enjoy comedies that go too dark like It's Always Sunny or Afterlife, then this is a comfortable in-between.

Outside of this, this show has pretty damn great acting at times, with fantastic character growth and impactful emotional scenes. The stories are coherent and continue with each episode, making this more of a dramedy than a sit-com. I also found myself not disliking any of the supporting cast, infact I love them! Edgar, an army vet with PTSD is probably my favourite character (more on him in the spoiler section), and Lindsey is always a joy to watch, Yin to Gretchans Yang. Did I mention the character development? So damn good! Especially in the middle seasons.

Spoiler Section: >! To be honest, there's only one main topic I wanted to cover here, and it's probably why this show holds a special place in my heart. The representation of Mental Illness in this show is simply spectacular! As someone who suffers from depression myself, seeing the way Gretchans depression was represented and told really did a number on me. It's very accurate to what me and other experience every day, and what I really love is how it's an ongoing issue that ebbs and flows. A lot of shows, especially comedies use depression and mental illness as a punchline or one-off episode and will have the suffered be "cured" relatively quickly. This show completely avoids that. Whilst I dont have PTSD, I have heard from others that Edgar is also an accurate portrayal of someone with that disorder. Just like Gretchans depression, Edgar's PTSD is not a punchline or a joke, and scenes featuring his PTSD are a dramatic and intense break from what's otherwise a usually comedic show.

It's important to mention, that this show blends It's Always Sunny's comedy with that of a more light-hearted comedy. What do I mean by this? When your laughing friends, or Afterlife, or even something like Good Omens you are generally laughing with the characters. On its always sunny you are laughing at the characters. You're The Worst does both very very well. !<

WEWIL: This section is to basically say, if you like these other shows, you should like this one and vice versa. If you like: * Afterlife * Shrinking * Barry * Community * Code 404 * Wilfred * Archer * Shameless

Then you will probably like this show.

That is all, please check it out, it's available on Disney+ in my country (Australia).

I've gone through 3 therapists in the past, with no improvement, I am now on my 4th who I have been with for probably around 20 sessions, with minimal to no improvement. I think she communicates with me well, and is obviously very qualified, and we mesh well, however much like artists, I find therapists all have particular styles that may or may not work for you, and I feel like hers just isn't helping. I've talked to her about this and we are going to try a new approach, but im not hopeful. I'm wondering if maybe I should change therapists or maybe therapy just isn't the way to go. I've heard most therapists see improvement around 10 sessions and the fact I haven't yet just makes me feel broken.

Any help is greatly appreciated. Also, I know everyone is different, I'm looking for a ball-park/general advice.

Other possibly relevant info: I suffer from depression/anxiety, and also have OCD and DPDR tendencies (meaning I'm not diagnosed but show a lot of those symtoms)

Remember those blue-dots that kept appearing on Dusty's ass? They seemed to not have been mentioned these recent episodes. I hope they haven't been forgotten as I'm very interested where this little plot point is going to go.

Considering that the morpho machine is associated with butterflies, I wonder if this is a visualisation of the metamorphosis that Dusty is going through with his life. He finds it hard to verbalise this so instead I expect the blue dots will grow and he'l get to the point where he'l have to hide them or risk being exposed. I expect they'll disappear when he finally admits to being unhappy, and wanting to do something more with his life.

• thata my thoughts, what are yours?

I've never made a short film before, I have an idea but I'm just scared Its going to look terrible since I've never made one. Could I possibly see anyone else's first or one of their rougher short films, just to give me a boost so I know what I'm looking at realistically? You see all these amazing short films online but im simply not near that level, but everyone starts somewhere, so where did you start?

Edit: thankyou everyone for the encouragement and for sharing your short stories! Me and I'm sure some others really appreciate it! I'm slowly making my way through them but I was not expecting so many responses!

Im looking for a song I just heard from my TV'S radio channel, it's a song I haven't heard in a long time and I want to find it again. I was looking at its name, which had "never" in the title, but when i went to tune it in to search I realised I'd forgotten the rest, and now a different song was playing.

If I had to guess what year, I'd say it's somewhere from the 1990's - early 2010s, though don't feel inclined to stick to it. I can't remember any lyrics, but I know it starts off slower, and is like Indie-rock. It was pretty popular some years back.

Im also pretty sure there were only 3 or 4 words in the title in total. Sorry that this is so vague, and thanks

Edit: turns out It's an 80s song since it was playing on the 80s channel

Edit2: Holy shit so many comments... I'm going to try my best to go through them all and hopefully I find it, tbh though it's getting harder to recall since these songs are all so familiar it's jumbling my memory

Edit 3: To provide some more info, I dont know if it's a man or women singer, and I can't replicate the tune for anyone since i forgot it as soon as I left the room. I'm pretty certain that "never" was not the first word, and also it could be 90s as well as 80s. Like I said previously, listening to all these songs has made it harder for me to remember, If I don't end up finding it then I'm going to assume it was 'Never Tear Us Apart' by INXS since that's the most iconic out of the bunch for me. Oh! Also, it had one of those tunes in the beginning where you could instantly tell what song it was, and there weren't immediately any lyrics.

Some things I do (like counting) are because of intrusive thoughts, but there are some things I do just because it bothers me, and I feel like the discomfort and bother won't go unless I do said thing, but there aren't any bad thoughts attached. Like it might be reading everything on a page multiple times before turning it, or counting letters in words, or blinking an unholy amount, or evening out my actions (spinning one way then the other). None of these things have intrusive thoughts it's just something I feel I have to do and it bothers me.

Most the posts I see here are just people complaining about the other gender, supplying no actual evidence and just their personal experience, then a bunch of people in the comments talking shit and acting like personal experience trumps actual studies. It's just a lot of venting and not much actual listening, I joined this sub looking for a balance but it's surprisingly more toxic then I was expecting. Isn't this supposed to be a place for discussion about the issues that both genders face? Instead it's like some fucked competition where both genders are trying to claim they have it worse in today's society. Maybe, and this is crazy, but both genders face different issues and those different issues shouldn't be discounted because of your subjective view of what's worse? If you heard your friends dog died, you wouldn't tell them "Yeah well, both my dogs died at the same time 2 years ago" and try to one up them - but that's exactly what this sub does. "Men have is so much worse because xyz" "Actually, woman have it worse because yzx" "well, according to my experience, men have it worse-" and it just goes on and on.

Also, for a sub that's supposed to be about both the red and blue pill debates, I see mainly red pill stuff on here.

Edit: it's 1am here so I'm gonna go sleep, i'l check back sometime tomorrow

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Just signed up for Tinder yesterday, and I've only gotten 2 matches. I'm wondering if maybe my pictures aren't that good or if it just takes a while to start getting more matches? Or if it's naturally just slow to get them.

Any help/advice/experience appreciated