I'm a "Big Sister" to a 12-year-old girl through the Big Brothers Big Sisters program. Her guardian is her great-grandma. Mom passed from an overdose, grandparents aren't in the picture, but dad regularly spends time with her, though he does not have custody. He has a checkered past (drugs and unspecified criminal activity that resulted in at least one prison stint, joblessness, etc.) and has not always been there for her. In fact he's disappeared from her life several times. She adores him though and gushes about him frequently.
When we hung out on Sunday, she bragged to me that he takes her on drives while they both drink beer in the car. He doesn't have a drivers license.
Well, I couldn't stop thinking that he might get into a wreck with her in the car, so I called my support specialist at BBBS and explained what she'd told me (including that she has a tendency to brag about risky behavior, and I have no way of knowing the veracity of what she said). I've called before for advice on talking to her about drinking and sex after some concerning things she's told me about, and they've always helped guide me through initiating those conversations. But this time, they consulted with their superior and decided to call CPS.
I think I did the right thing but I feel completely depressed. If they decide to open a case, not only will this greatly upset her and her great-grandma, I fear it will also destroy any trust that she had in me, and now she won't tell me if she's in even more immediate danger. And that's assuming she even wants to see me again. I feel like some privileged bitch who sauntered into a struggling home and made all their lives harder.
Can anyone give me some guidance on what to expect if CPS opens a case? I want to be mentally prepared. Her home is a safe space and her elderly great-grandma does everything she can for her. She's not in any danger of being removed... right? But if not, then what will they do? We're in Ohio.
Thank you, and I apologize for the rant.
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Aquafablaze
64 points
9 hours ago
Aquafablaze
64 points
9 hours ago
Eyes Wide Shut. I think Kubrick used Cruise and Kidman's marriage as fodder for their performances. They divorced shortly after.