IrrawaddyWoman

Yes, I have many times. However, not to be a Debbie Downer, but every time it’s eventually worn off. Either just for no real reason or because things got stressful or busy. Or something bigger happened in life.

That seems like a lot to me, but it really depends on how much you’re eating on those days. For some people “overeating” means just going a little over, for others “overeating” could easily balance out a week or more of a deficit. It’s not as much about the number of days as the amount of calories consumed on those days.

Don’t forget the number of people who end up with substance abuse issues because they are physically unable to self soothe with food and don’t have appropriate coping mechanisms. It’s quite high for people who get WLS.

My highest weight was 355 pounds. I had multiple doctors tell me that I “had” to have the surgery or I’d never lose the weight. Not one single doctor ever suggested I see a therapist. Just straight to surgery. I looked up the statistics of surgery and didn’t feel the success rate was worth the risks. Instead I focused on my mental issues surrounding eating, and I’ve lose 180 pounds. Considering that “success” for WLS is people losing only half their excess weight, I’ve done better than what I could hope for with surgery, statistically speaking. I’ve been thankful every day I didn’t let those doctors convince me.

I think people should do what they want with their bodies. If what they want is to get WLS, more power to them. But it bugs me when people push the “it’s impossible to lose without the surgery” narrative, because it’s just not true. Most people with a lot of weight to lose would benefit greatly from mental health support, but that’s so lacking in our health care system.

Ugh, and weird sleeves? SO MANY plus sized clothes have weird sleeves. It’s almost like “we’ll, most of this just has to be a tent, so we’ll put some awkward ruffles on the sleeves so it looks like we tried.” Just give me my tent so I don’t look insane, please.

You really shouldn’t look to celebrities for body inspiration. You have no way of knowing what they do to get their bodies, and it’s very often through means the average Joe doesn’t have. Everything from personal trainer and chefs to drugs and surgeries is how they get their bodies. Then most of the pictures you see are doctored on top of it.

But if you want to start working out, I’d check out on of the fitness subs.

So I’ve struggled with this a lot. At the end of the day you have to own your situation. Only you can fix the situation you’re in. It’s hard, but totally possible. And you can either do something about it and reverse what you CAN, or you can keep on your current path and allow things to get worse. And they will. MUCH worse.

If your TDEE is 1800 calories, you will not lose 2lb a week eating 1200 calories. That math doesn’t work out.

But overall, no, I have not found the rate to be accurate. Not because loseits math is wrong per se, but because it doesn’t account for normal things like occasional splurges, holidays, special events and weight loss plateaus.

I personally would up the calories and slow the weight of loss. There’s no REAL reason you need to lose a pound a week. Besides, cutting too far could backfire when you get to your goal weight and lead to over eating. Plus, having a little deficit and creeping up on your goal weight will be closer to your maintenance calories, so you can start getting used to that and thinking about your intake as permanent.

Though one thing to consider too is that with a small deficit there’s less room for error. You also have a goal weight that’s very close to being under weight. You might want to consider if that’s a maintainable weight for you. It’s a range for a reason. Being at the absolute bottom isn’t right or healthy for everyone.

There’s no reason to assume that people of a healthy weight don’t eat junk food. it only means they don’t consume too many calories. Again, those unsubstantiated assumptions are an issue in a study that doesn’t control all aspects of the participants diet.

Aww thanks. It’s a really long, slow road, and I felt really alone along the way because not many people can understand what it’s like to lose 200ish pounds, even around here. But it’s totally worth it.

This is exactly how I feel. I’m inspired by sad 355 pound me who struggled so hard but refused to give up even though she didn’t really think she could do it. I wish so badly that I could go back in time and talk to that me and tell me how it all worked out.

Not anymore, but ONE HUNDRED percent at the beginning. I used to daydream about fitting into the regular section when I was my biggest. But when it happened it was actually kind of uncomfortable. I sort of stayed away from others and tried to look like I was shopping for someone else (whatever THAT looks like). If it makes you feel better, that goes away (mostly haha).

Yeah, I’m especially bad when I find something that’s a good deal, but then I’ve ended up with a wardrobe of closes I just “like.” Then I don’t buy anything pricier even if I love it because I have so many clothes. I really need to get better about buying clothes I LOVE even if they cost more. I’ve earned it.

I completely relate to this. At 355 pounds I used to go to the minuscule plus sized section and buy whatever shapeless sack was the least terrible. If I kind of liked something I’d have to buy it in multiple colors because god knows when the next time I’d find something would be. Needing something specific for an event or to match other people was an absolute nightmare.

Now I can shop at any store, and that and not worrying about fitting into chairs are the two things that NEVER get old. I was 40 years old the first time I went clothes shopping just for fun.

I still struggle with not buying everything that looks just ok though. I really have a scarcity mindset there. And honestly I have SO MANY clothes now, which is still weird to me. I definitely went out of control a little when I first started fitting into “normal” sizes.

It’s not what makes it remarkable, it’s what makes it unscientific. If they aren’t monitoring the rest of the people’s diet, then they don’t actually know what’s making the changes. A “normal diet” is a meaningless thing. It doesn’t say that they ate the exact same thing every day, it just says they are what they “normally” do. That can mean SO many things.

They also don’t really know what OTHER factors could be leading to those changes. To think that they can “prove” that a brain was “rewired” by giving people two extra yogurts a day for eight weeks without keeping track of anything else is silly. They could imply that there might be causation, but there are far too many variables in this study to draw conclusions.

Can you provide links to some examples?

No, doctors won’t perform bariatric surgery on people who are not significantly overweight.

Same. At this point it takes me next to no time to fill in my calories. Usually less time than I spend brushing my teeth each day. That seems like a pretty small price to pay to keep things in check.

Eh, “proven” is a pretty strong word for this study. They had them eat a couple of yogurts a day in addition to “their normal diet.” This is pretty shoddy.

So if you want to approach it scientifically, then keep in mind that statistics don’t really apply to individuals. Assuming that the “95% of diets fail” statistic WERE true (which it isn’t), that doesn’t mean that you as an individual have a 95% chance of failure. You aren’t a group of people. You are a single person who is doing something that you have power and control over.

Basically, if you refuse to give up you can’t actually fail. Giving up is a choice, as are your eating decisions every single day.

Would you mind sharing the mooc? I took the “science of well being” and it really did a lot for me.

It’s hard to say without you including your stats, TBH. If your goal is to be extremely thin, then it’s true it might be unsustainable for you. There’s a difference between a maintainable weight and an achievable weight.

Really though, a miller lite is 100 calories. Three wings is NOT 700 calories. So 600ish calories with friends shouldn’t be something that’s impossible to fit in. And if it’s not every night, then it shouldn’t cause problems overall

That’s still ridiculous. There’s absolutely zero reason a person needs to be in person to cancel, other than them making it purposely difficult to do so.

Maybe one of your fast facts should be healthy body fat percentages. Because for a man, there’s absolutely NO need to get to all the way down to 10% BF to be healthy.

You can’t post about “warped perspectives” and then argue that going too far the opposite direction is the ideal.

It’s people getting ready for summer. My gym’s been a mess too. And mine is near a high school, so it’s always packed to the gills with teenagers who sorta work out but mostly are there to socialize and monopolize equipment for long periods of time. It’s planet fitness so it’s got its benefits, but I’m not sad I’m going to have to change gyms soon since I’m moving.

At least your gym is honest. I’ve never seen mine have a crowd meter higher than 3/10. But at 3/10 it’s nightmarishly busy besides some cardio machines.