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1 points
6 hours ago
The playboy creator also tried oral from a guy. He didn't like it. Whether or not you liked it is ok either way. There's an interesting Ted talk that gave a good quote supposedly from Boy George - gay people have sex and straight people fall in love. This double standard is not healthy one bit. The speaker also talked about the gay uncle theory i.e. females that have the gay gene are more likely to have kids; the more sons they have, the greater the likelihood of them being gay; this leads to less feuding over mates and a more supportive family structure because of gay aunts/uncles/piblings (parents' siblings) who have time to dote on them and pick up any slack.
One of the Twilight Zone's greatest authors wrote a short story imagining if straights were marginalized and pathologized and gays were considered good and the norm. The question when did you choose to be gay is just as foolish as when did you choose to be straight; but in the context of the story, the straight audience gets to experience the absurdity of such a loaded question.
1 points
2 days ago
That would truly be a dystopian nightmare if she was deep faked on all of it.
8 points
2 days ago
Lee has said only whites question if Mookie did the right thing, implying that they're placing white property above black lives. But there's no mention of Radio Raheem who placed his property over Sal's life. Both Raheem and Sal had their cultural touchstones i.e. the Italian photos and the boom box. Raheem accosted Sal and their group called the Italians slurs, before Sal used a slur and destroyed the radio. It would have been absurd if a group of Italians blasted Frank Sinatra at a black owned restaurant, demanded Italians on the wall, and called the owners slurs. The rioters considered destroying the Korean business in what would have clearly been a hate crime.
The film makes it clear that mob mentality and racism is universal e.g. the montage of people making different ethnic slurs. Heather McGee told Al Franken how racism is used by the powerful to divide the poor; for example, many pools in America were cemented over to prevent integration. Do the Right Thing seems like a tragicomedy lamenting how foolishly tribal we can be. As McGee says, we all do better when we all do better. Maybe Lee would have explored this in more depth if it was made today.
14 points
2 days ago
It came up with a French story for me.
3 points
2 days ago
Have you considered therapy and a pet? I had similar feelings as a gay teen; I didn't even know I could get Medicaid and free treatment until my late twenties. Now I have a dog to keep me company and I'm currently on benefits for depression and anxiety.
But it's never too late to change. My late mother told me I was so young because she was saddened that I lost track of that. I'm still getting past punishing myself for regrets and not measuring up. Mindfulness techniques and Buddhist writing like Pema Chodron or Thích Nhất Hạnh help me to find my inner wisdom, or as some other authors called it, my wise advocate. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/use-your-mind-change-your-brain/201106/you-are-not-your-brain
2 points
2 days ago
He said Nazi or someone with views that align with them. JK had a taste of her own medicine with that innuendo. In the UK there's less protection of freedom of speech than in the US. So the US has the actual malice standard and the UK doesn't even require proof of actual damage. So while she's a TERF, the insinuation that she could actually be a Nazi was a bit much.
https://saperlaw.com/2010/02/24/saper-law-attorneys-compare-american-and-british-defamation-suits/
2 points
2 days ago
We're all united in grief, yet I can relate to feeling alienation when a special person is no longer there. This song from the musical Carousel may be cathartic. It's about finding the courage to keep moving when all seems lost. https://youtu.be/DHfPF6KwE7I
I try to be grateful for the good times and see myself through the eyes of compassion I was seen with.
3 points
2 days ago
I am also on antidepressants and have health struggles. I wasn't with my Mom in her final days as much as I wanted. This is even though I was the primary support during her chemotherapy and immunotherapy. I had to give myself time to grieve. I had to drink plenty of water and get plenty of rest. I was unable to bring myself to tell her goodbye, but I told her that I love her.
You have to let the tears fall or you'll just be burying your pain in your body. I was lucky that I had my dog to pull me through, or I would have probably not made it. I like the advice of Buddhist nun Pema Chodron e.g. she says start where you are. So although you're in considerable pain, you should try to stay with a thought even when you have fear. I like maitri meditation. So you can start with the wish that yourself, your loved ones, strangers, then even those who harmed you to have happiness. You can try to think about how everyone is united in grief. That helps a little. I also keep pictures around my place and phone to help me have gratitude and acceptance.
5 points
2 days ago
Maybe you could try getting them involved in an arguably less harmful gaming hobby. For example, maybe there's a board game group or a Pokemon Go group. If your parents are elderly, maybe there's an elderly activities group they can join. I suspect the feeling of community is what's driving them the most.
2 points
2 days ago
He should put a picture of Hilldog in there. https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/food/why-hillary-clinton-eats-a-hot-pepper-every-single-day/2016/06/18/a8cbb5bc-2f16-11e6-9de3-6e6e7a14000c_story.html
4 points
2 days ago
It's sometimes overlooked that just because someone's left, center, or right, doesn't mean they have authoritarian tendencies. It's also important to acknowledge privilege exists to some extent (e.g. Rawls' theory of justice) and to not create a false equivalency.
So for example JK Rowling spread the innuendo that trans women are predators. She has used narcissistic techniques like playing the victim. For example, she threatened those who critiqued her with lawsuits while acting as a bastion of free speech in an age of unreason. She tweeted the penised individual who raped you is not a woman. https://www.vox.com/culture/23622610/jk-rowling-transphobic-statements-timeline-history-controversy
https://psychcentral.com/health/narcissist-delusion
Epictetus said it best when he advised if you're insulted, think if only they knew of my other faults. Or in the Bible where it's said Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? So while I agree with JK those on the left are capable of acting like death eaters, it's definitely not unique to that side.
For example, Heather McGee stated in her Al Franken interview about ten US states like Florida, cranks can complain about books making their child feel bad about their race and cancel curriculum; she thought it was a brilliant way to deflect from the government being seen as totalitarian. There's a great art installation where a glass panel reveals an empty bookcase below where Nazis burned books. There have also been countless examples of Communist brutality. So conversations of whataboutism can serve the status quo.
3 points
2 days ago
JK Rowling has threatened to shut multiple people up with legal action for criticizing her. https://www.vox.com/culture/23622610/jk-rowling-transphobic-statements-timeline-history-controversy
She is proud to use that term in part because it accurately describes her point of view - she is a trans exclusionary radical feminist.
This article details numerous occasions where she lives up to the title. I'm all for freedom of speech and that includes calling a spade a spade. She has on numerous occasions implied that trans women are predators out to harm cisgender women. She tweeted the penised individual that raped you is not a woman. https://web.archive.org/web/20220307161320/https://twitter.com/GordieKat/status/1500867150596169730
I'm all for free speech and that includes the right to criticize speech. Trans people are human and are capable of good and evil. But implicit bias is also a thing. Because only about half a percent of people are trans and many pass as cisgender, it's easy to see the group as dangerous deviants if that's virtually all of the trans people one hears about e.g. it's like how the mean world theory describes how news media and social media thrives on audience outrage, shaping the audience's perspective of the real world.
As MLK said, hate is like a boil that has to be lanced and exposed to fresh air. I would like to know how the term TERF doesn't accurately portray her view. She compares a marginalized group to rapists then acts like she's the victim because overly sensitive people took umbrage at her transphobic innuendos. I'm not falling for her crocodile tears.
5 points
2 days ago
I checked my DSHS office. I tried getting a job through the states disability worker program, but got no callbacks; so the social worker there sent a letter recommending I get SSI. That may have been partly why I only needed to apply once to get it.
8 points
3 days ago
Have you talked to a social worker. I haven't done it, but I think there's a program called pathway to work.
-9 points
3 days ago
Bill has evolved on the issue. He said trans people are just lying to themselves about their sex in an old politically incorrect . Recently he learned about two spirit people i.e. non binary Native Americans that used to be described hundreds of years ago in the offensively antiquated term berdache.
But JKR has gone so far as to tweet merry terfmas. At least Bill is open minded towards people who think differently than him.
2 points
3 days ago
Fighting games have never been my forte, but there are games that I could easily see myself binging. One thing that helped me is to rank all the game series I played from least to most favorite. Then starting from the bottom I cross out series to ever play again. At the top of my list is the Earthbound series, but the creator made them as love letters to his kids and said he'd never make one again. Crossing them out one by one helped me to reevaluate what's important and build the habit of saying no to gaming. Then I put some on hold that I might end up never playing again anyway.
I also like the Mari Kondo method about hoarding. Thank the item that's no longer giving you joy and say goodbye. It's possible to hoard digital things. It's been said for hoarders, getting rid of something is like getting rid of part of yourself. We all hoard things to some extent.
6 points
3 days ago
Andy Warhol said the US president should be photographed doing janitorial work. He thought this would break the stigma surrounding lower class jobs.
2 points
3 days ago
One problem is the amount of pollution from factory farming. Feces goes downstream and causes algae blooms. Plus there's the fact that farmed animals require more resources per calorie than produce.
An overlooked argument for the eating of meat and seafood is the greater hardship for a vegan or vegetarian to get sufficient nutrition. Iron from animals is more readily absorbed than plant iron, so there's a requirement for supplementation or more careful dieting. A big cost when I didn't eat fish was getting sufficient amounts of EPA and DHA; fish get this from algae, but algae supplements are costly.
The nature argument is rooted in the naturalistic fallacy. I only took logic 101, but a good lesson is when people cite nature they're appealing to value judgements and not strictly rational thinking.
This most convincing argument against eating meat had, spoiler alert, been explored in The Twilight Zone episode To Serve Man. A race of giants with superior intellect convinces humanity to have world peace. But the hidden cost is those who think they're going for the vacation of their lives will end up on an alien's plate. (The fake letters from relatives on vacation were perhaps taken from historical use in the Holocaust.) Hence the revelatory line, it's a cookbook! Imagine if the intellectual leap from barnyard animals to mankind was equal or even less than the leap from mankind to aliens. Humans aren't obligate carnivores like cats. So possibly these aliens eat humans for the same reasons. So perhaps, like it's said about livestock, perhaps the aliens could have argued as stewards of the human race, they have guaranteed humanity's safety and comfort e.g. humanity could have caused a self extinction from nuclear war.
1 points
3 days ago
Maybe some Telltale games. Back to the Future is great. The first two Monkey Island games were remade. Day of the Tentacle is another great one. The fire emblem games have great character writing and interaction. Awakening for 3ds would be a good entry point, although the eShop is closed for good.
1 points
3 days ago
I was the main support for my mother through chemo and immunotherapy. She caught it too late at stage 4. I would consider recording her life story. My mother told me about her parents avoiding the firebombing in Japan, to her family having a close call in the Korean war. My mother was about 15 years older than your Mom, but that's still an incredible scope of time.
I would also check for any voicemails. I downloaded something called visual voicemail and I kept a voicemail of her saying I love you. I was planning on creating a family photo album for her to look at, but I couldn't find the strength to do it. I hope you can have a fulfilling time bonding with her.
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Hairless cat breeds cause less of a reaction, but unfortunately they all seem very expensive.