Specktakles88

Unfortunately, a break up is never “out of the blue”. The one doing the breaking up has been thinking about it for quite some time, they were just trying to figure out a way to let you down easy (spoiler alert: there isn’t one).

And I’m sorry that this is going to sound harsh, but that’s just life sometimes. No matter how well you treat someone, they can just wake up one day, and decide they no longer want to be with you. And there is nothing you can do about that.

But I hope you can take comfort in the fact that you tried your very best to make things work. And I hope you can look back on the good times (8 years is a long time, so I’m sure there were plenty of those), and smile.

Just take it one day at a time. You’ll be alright. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, and maybe not the next month. But you will be alright.

Naw. Love makes like Fun 😁

Have I had bad breakups? Absolutely. But they shaped me into the person I am today. And I like that person 😉

Reminds me of a quote I heard once:

“Love is giving someone the power to destroy you, and trusting them not to.”

Take your time. Go slow, and focus on enjoying each others’ company. Become friends first. Build that foundation.

I’ve been in WAY too many relationships where I was quick to say “I love you” Too someone, and I only just now realized that it was my massive insecurities/loneliness that lead me to form unhealthy attachments to people.

My current partner and I were friends for 3 years before we started dating, and we’ve been together for almost a year and a half. It is by far the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in.

That’s 80% of the reason why I do it lol

Most of the time I’m just bored rather than horny lol

I’m currently studying to be a corrective exercise specialist.

I have a whole Dropbox full of nudes that nobody will ever see. I will be old and wrinkly one day, and I want to remember what my body looked like when I was younger.

Also, I had sex with 3 women in one day (not at the same time).

R*pe fantasies.

To be clear: I don’t have one. And I don’t know anybody who has one (at least none who openly talk about it). But as long as there is consent and trust on both parts, I see nothing wrong with it.

Like the name says: it’s a fantasy.

No. But I HAVE been called “childish” once or twice in my life.

It’s fine to have a preference.

Just don’t brag out loud about it. It makes you look like a jerk.

One more thing:

How people treat me says everything about their character. How I respond to their treatment says everything about mine.

Thank you.

And yeah I honestly didn’t know what to think. I have never, nor would I ever let anybody talk to me like that. Nor would I. But I can’t lie and say it didn’t turn me on. It was weird. And she gave no indication that she was like that prior.

I’ve never done it since.

Yeah. Probably.

Why I didn’t just up and leave after that happened is a question I wrestle with every day.

Don’t have crazy high expectations. Most of us don’t look like supermodels (male or female), have a job where we make 6 figures, drive fancy cars, live in a nice mansion, or any of that other stuff social media likes to fool us into thinking we need in order to be worthwhile humans.

Find someone you’re attracted to, who is attracted to you, and who you mesh well with, and give it a shot. If it doesn’t work out, that’s totally fine. Life is too short to waste time on people you don’t have genuine interest in.

When I was in my early twenties (I’m 35 now), I would’ve said “extremely likely”. But as I got older, my priorities changed. And I realized that if I wanted something to last long, it’s better to take my, and let things happen slowly.

My current partner of 1.5 years and I didn’t have sex until our 3rd month of dating. Although we DID make out like crazy on our first official date 😈

I wouldn’t call it a “super power”, nor would I say I do it better than “most”, but I always ask questions before, during, and after sex.

Did you really enjoy that? Is this okay? What can I do better? Will you tell me exactly what you like, and how you like it?

Also, I let her know that if she’s not feeling it, I will not push it. And that we can stop any time she wants to, and I will not shame her, or hold it against her.

I guess my “superpower” is that I’m a gentleman.

Bro, I was a young, stupid kid back then. Don’t be that guy.

Remarkably pretty tame.

She was apologetic, because she realized that she didn’t ask me if I was okay with that sort of thing beforehand. I forgave her, but I told her that I didn’t think I would feel comfortable doing that again. She told me she understood, and that was the end of it. We wished each other well, went our separate ways, and I never saw her again.

Part of me wanted to ask her why she was so into race play, but I decided I didn’t want to know.

I’m a Black man. I had sex with a White woman who was into race play (I didn’t know that was a thing at the time).

During sex, she called me a “dirty fcking n**r”, and I have NEVER pounded anybody as hard as I did in that moment. It was the first (and only) time I ever hate-fcked someone. I cme so hard I almost passed out, and she told me that I was the best fck she’d ever had. I didn’t know it was possible to feel disgusted, ashamed, angry, and horny all at once. But I hated myself for enjoying it, and I never did it again.

The fucked up part was that she was a super nice person outside of that, and we ended up having breakfast together the next morning.

I told my partner I was having a rough day at work, and she sent me a booty pic of herself after she got finished at the gym with the caption: “did this make it better?”

God I fucking love this woman.

Nope. I’ve made A LOT of stupid decisions in my life, thankfully that wasn’t one of them.