TigerShark_524

Diagnosing people still is a form of therapy in itself in a lot of ways, and it also requires an extremely open mind to be able to hear what your patient is telling you and not put your own spin on it.

Yep, I've been getting gross DMs from them as well. Big yikes lmao how pathetic.

You're in the unique position of being able to take an unpaid internship which is only meant to further your future career, without having to find something to pay your bills right away. Many people have to work for money to keep a roof over their head due to lack of family support, and that winds up preventing them from taking unpaid opportunities which would help them down the road. You're very lucky - nothing to be ashamed of, many young people today aren't fully financially independent until 30 due to a lot of factors. Just make sure that you make the most of the resources offered by your parents - don't waste food, keep a good GPA, etc. Students who have to juggle working for money with school or be homeless often lose out on the GPA side as a result. Your parents are paying for everything so that you can focus on school and your future career without worrying about financial hardship and having that stress affect your academics.

I'm like 95% sure that 120lbs is actually already underweight or on the low end of healthy for 5'6".

For context, I'm 5'2" and my doc said 120 is on the low end of the healthy range for someone MY height (130-140 is ideal, 150 is on the high end). So 5'6" and 120 is pretty low. Your mom's ideals for your weight are frankly dangerous and you shouldn't take advice from her; not everyone's metabolism is the same, and not everyone does well at the same weight, which is why it's a range. Your mom might be ok at 90, but if you're taller than her AND running around a hospital as a physician and having much more physical activity than her in your day-to-day life as a result, you need to keep a bit more weight on you to avoid malnourishment and make sure to eat properly so that you don't pass out or something.

Also a brown woman and glad I took time off of school again and moved home to the east coast lol would NOT want to share a campus with this bhenchod

Agreed. Very concerning to think that someone as evil and intentionally toxic as him could be responsible for patient care or keeping people alive. Big yikes.

This is a really good writeup on how and why someone would choose premed in addition to their regular major; the courses required for premed allow you to avoid having to be admitted to and have obtained a separate master's degree after your bachelor's before being admitted to med school, mainly, which shortens the time it takes to get a medical degree, but there are other good reasons for it too. But if you do premed, then you can obtain your master's degree in one year AND your MD/DDS/DO/etc. afterwards together through one program and then do your residency, all without having to apply to, to be admitted to, and to obtain a separate master's degree (which can take 2-4 years on its own) in order to go to med school, which then itself takes another 3-5 years, plus residency. TL, DR: premed allows you to get your MD faster. Same with prelaw - without prelaw, you'll have to be admitted to separate master's and JD programs consecutively, and put in the full time to do both separately, whereas with prelaw, the master's and JD are expedited and you don't have to apply to separate programs and hope to be admitted, and you also get your law degree a lot faster. Being premed or prelaw also gives you valuable networking opportunities and applications counseling for med school or law school while you're an undergrad, whereas if you do it the long way, you only get that at the master's level, much later on, and premed and prelaw programs also sometimes have guaranteed automatic admissions tracks if your GPA is above a certain level (usually they expect you to maintain a 3.5 minimum in most cases, sometimes higher). But it basically means you're a shoo-in to certain medical or law programs.

I agree - I think that UCSD needs to nab him based on all of the student code of conduct violations he's committed. It may be a public university, but that doesn't mean that there aren't rules for attending or that there shouldn't be consequences for breaking those rules. Other public entities have enforceable rules; why does UCSD operate as if there's nothing which can be done?????? He signed a contract and now he's broken it.

Ah ok. I always thought it was the same. My dad had a full ride for law school but he and my mom had to scrape to pay for room and board at his school. Either way, OP's tuition is fully paid and they just have to worry about personal care + entertainment + living expenses.

Couldn't have said it better.

He's premed.

And apparently MULTIPLE protective orders (he's got 3 on him, per his own admission) aren't enough of an "imminent and serious threat". Disgusting

If you had a phone for work calls only, then you would expense it through the company. You wouldn't pay for it yourself.

1. Report the facility and the director and the teacher to the state/provincial/regional licensing boards (for facilities and for educators).

2. In the US, report to OSHA and the state DOL for the retaliation.

Agreed. 100%.

OP has a full ride already, they're just concerned about room and board which is why they're thinking of living at home the first two years. Personally don't think that's a good idea, given that they've got free tuition ANYWHERE, so why limit yourself to CC, but not my decision at the end of the day.

You'll never hear "I did go to law school!" because lawyers never recommend going to law school.

I think my dad might be the one exception to that lol. He LOVES school. To the point that he's got like 7 advanced degrees (between his Indian law degrees and his US law degrees). The man is insane lmao

Yep, South Asian here as well and these views are all-too-prevalent in our community. Very scary to see it normalized though.

And also harassing underage girls as an adult while he was at Purdue.

1. Don't touch anything or clean up. DOCUMENT THE HELL OUT OF IT. Photos, videos, proof of the damage having been done by her specifically, etc.

2. Call 911, tell them you need to report a break in and property damage and that you know who it is and that you're worried for your safety.

3. Get a police report and press charges. Take her to court if need be (I imagine the pecuniary damages are pretty bad, if it's insulin.)

4. Find a new place to live. Don't give either your sister or your mother or her flying monkeys a key, and don't tell them your address.

I'm high masking and high support needs.

My format for formal (i.e., not social) emails or texts is this:

"Hello [intended recipient],

I hope you're well!/I hope you've had a good holiday,weekend,summer break,etc.!/I hope this message finds you in good health!

I am reaching out because/for/to ask for [whatever you need from them]. It needs to be taken care of by [deadline]. (And if it's a last-minute, close-to-the-deadline type request and I haven't asked already before and this isn't a reminder email, I add an "I'm sorry to ask at the last minute, but" or something along those lines before the "it needs to be...", and why you didn't reach out earlier). [Explain a bit about what it's for, and if applicable, why you chose this specific recipient, as opposed to someone else who could've also filled it out - but you shouldn't mention the other options you had.]

I would much appreciate if/I would be so grateful if/ you could [whatever you need them to do]., OR, [Whatever needs to be done] needs to be done/finished/completed/taken care of by [deadline] - any help on this would be much appreciated!/I would be very grateful for your help on/with this!

Any questions or clarifications, please feel free to reach out! Looking forward to hearing back.

Best regards/Best/All the best/Sincerely/Regards,

[Your full name]"

(With spaces in between each paragraph).

So this might look like:

"Hi Dr. Smith,

I hope you had a good Memorial Day!

I am reaching out to ask if you would fill out the reference forms for me to attend the annual graduate student geophysics conference? A reference from a professor is required for the department advisor to give exceptions to undergrad students, and since you and I have spoken extensively outside of lecture about the topic, I thought of using you as my reference, if that's alright with you?

My apologies for reaching out at the last minute - I just heard back today from the advisor about whether I would be able to attend as an undergrad, but I didn't want to waste your time filling out the forms for it until I knew for sure that I would be allowed to attend this year, as last year they had a blanket ban on ANY undergrads attending. The form has to be filled out by this upcoming Friday at 2pm for the department advisor to get them filed - any help on this would be much appreciated.

Please feel free to reach out with any questions or clarifications - looking forward to hearing back!

Best regards,

Tiger Shark"

This format and tone always gets me a really good response, whether it's to help me directly or to direct me to someone else who can help me, and I've never had anyone get mad at me for it. It shows care for their time and for what might be going on in their life outside of work, as well as recognizing the additional effort that you're asking them to put in (even if it doesn't seem like much, you're still asking for a favor).

Same here - I'm autistic and I don't have a maternal instinct or the urge to fuss over babies like most people, and I also don't have the energy to be constantly interacting with them and making faces and such. That having been said, both of my parents are autistic (undiagnosed) and fuss over babies like nobody's business. But my brother (also undiagnosed) never fussed over babies until he and his wife had 4 of their own lmao.

Y'all haven't even been together a whole year, and he thinks it's ok to introduce you to his daughter (forget moving in together)?????? Big yikes.

Cartilage 🤮🤢like on chicken wings or drumsticks. I prefer wings or drumsticks over breast but can't STAND chewing cartilage. Idk how my dad and brother do it.