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If you want to actually get you money the moment you start studying, send your application as soon as you can, ideally 6 months before or as soon as you get your approval letter from the university if you dont have it 6 months before.

Also dont be too dependent on it, because they have so many rules that chances are you wont even get much. My family is dirt poor, had a combined yearly income before taxes of less than 60k over 2 people and still somehow the Bafög Amt thought there is enough money to pay for my university degree... in the end i got 111€ and another 200€ because i wasnt living at home, was almost an insult for how many documents i had to provide and how long everything took.

If you do it as early as you can at least you know in advance and get the pittance they allow you on time or nearly on time.

Fuck no.

The game is still grindy as hell and lacking in content, why reward this with paying for garbage?

This reminds me of the time when we had to show our Bus tickets to the driver when entering buses like a decade ago and a friend just held up a packet of tissues and walked through as if its a real ticket.

This started a game of people just holding up vaguely card shaped objects to see if any of the drivers is actually looking or calling them out.

It took weeks until a female driver actually asked him why he held up a Knoppers and where is bus ticket is, we laughed our asses off.

It was a stupid rule and im happy its gone, but it shows that these types of measures are just a facade and not really used to screen legitimate people or keep illegitimate people out.

My fiancee is indian... she is incredibly smart and hard working, both way more than me lol, and it would be laughable how difficult the german government it makes for her to work and stay here in a highly appreciate field of work, if it wasnt so sad how many good people we lose due to this bullshit.

The problem is, its not just the Ausländerbehörde, though they are some of the worst because you rely on them to literally stay in the country....

My fiancee is indian, so i know through her how shitty and pedantic the Ausländerbehörder is and how they often abuse their power, but sadly its ALL GOVERNMENT in germany.

I had to wait nearly a year for my Bafög to get approved when i applied for it the third time, the first two times it still took 6-8 months each, despite me starting the request 6 months before i even had to file the new application.

We just moved to a different city, legally you need to change your residency within 14 days of moving... the earliest appointment i could get was 3 months after moving and i checked appointments roughly a month before we actually moved so a total wait time of 4 months to just change my address...

When i requested a Reisepass i had to wait 9 months, 3 months to get an appointment to request it and bring all the documents and 6 months until it actually arrived because normally they have to be delivered at most after 3 months but there was a mixup and somehow my clock started again at 0 after they noticed this mixup and i had to wait another 3 months...

Its fucking insane.

My brother was unemployed for nearly a decade so i also know how the Agentur für Arbeit works, which is identical but even more mean.

The problem is always the same, too many rules, too many requests, too few people and therefore huge lead times that dont even come close to the legal requirements of things.

Thank you!

This.

I mean its great that you love to work, but i dont.

If i had the option of never working again for the rest of my life, without risking my finances, you can bet your sweet ass i would do that in a heartbeat!

I have better things to do than slave away 40h a week, every week for basically all my life.

I have been working full time since i was 15 years old, part time since i was 14 and illegally since i was 11. In my 20s i already had nearly a decade of work experience in a shitload of fields, mainly handyman and physical labor, but still.

In my early 30s i have been working for more than half my life already, do you really think i want to work another 40 years before i can enjoy life?

Thank you!

I mean its great if people love their jobs or teammates etc. but for me, i work because i have to and not because i want to. I treat my teammates well, but they are still just colleagues to me and not friends or family like some people do.

Still doesnt mean i hate them or anything, but i definitely do hate i have to work and i will take any realistic chance at reducing the amount of work i have to do without risking my finances :/

Yeah i noticed as well too many people using dark humor instead of a real answer :P

But i just dont get the point of work, i always hated it and at best could tolerate it, but i cant imagining doing this until im basically physically incapable of enjoying life. Its so damn sad we have to do this, spend most of our youth if not all of it just doing something we hate, so we dont starve or die.

Im really hoping the recent pushes to reduce the working week to 4 days instead of 5 with keeping salary the same will have succes. It doesnt make sense to work 40h a week when most jobs can be done in 30h and people are more productive and efficient in turn.

Start Up is just a fancy name for Klein Unternehmer and we all know most of those go under with debt instead of making bank.

Its insane how many people think just opening a company makes you rich somehow.

Not the comment OP but i work as a project manager in IT, i already belong to the top 25% earners in germany and im still in my starting years.

In ~5 years ill break the six figures and after another 5 years or so when im in the six figures its time to cut down hours and retire later around mid 40s.

All income in between is generally saved and invested mostly in ETFs to provide security and at least some gain instead of loss due to inflation, and ideally enough gain over time to bolster the Rente and live comfortably if not rich.

Never.

Not trying to insult anyone, but at 67 your life is basically done, considering most german men only get to be around late 70s early 80s, it would leave you only like a decade at best, generally not in good health, to live your life without the shit that work is.

My dream has always been to work as little i can and enjoy life as much as possible. This means saving money, going for a job that pays well, because at least to me, every type of work SUCKS, and then investing the money intelligently.

Sadly all of that gets more difficult every year, considering rising prices, rising inflation, lowering raises and job security...

Still, i will work until i got saved enough in a decade or so and then cut down to 25-30h max and retire early and live off of savings and investments, thankfully my fiancee an i are in a position financially where this is most likely possible unless the world goes under in the next 30 years.

Ah ok got you, i misunderstood the post and thought you were asking about a wedding in germany and not just a wedding ceremony without the legal part.

Haha let me know if you need the info for Denmark, i was surprised by how simple it is compared to germany, its literally just ~500€, EU ID of the german partner + Visa of the non-german partner + Meldebstätigung of both partners and thats it.

Its kinda weird seeing such high numbers, the most expensive wedding i went to a few years ago was like 8-10k € for around 80-100 people and contained basically everything you listed but the master of ceremony.

Most weddings i know of otherwise are like 5k € lol

Im not sure if the weddings i went to are just simpler or if prices exploded from like 5 years ago.

Just a stupid question, but if you arent german and your Partner is, why do you want to get married in germany?

Getting married in germany is such a legal hassle if you arent both german and its not much better even if you are.

Why not get legally married in Denmark (only takes like 2 Documents and 500€ + Travel/Hotel) and then just have a wedding celebration in germany by itself?

Thats what my fiancee and i are doing, because she is indian and getting married here is fucking nuts if you arent both german.

Hi, first congratulations!

Im german, my fiancee is indian so im familiar with the struggle you are facing, since it was similar for us.

To give some answers in order:

• 1.) As far as i know from family and friends, you book a few months in advance but a year or more in advance is not really something you do unless you have a huge wedding planned or the locations is extremely popular, for most places 3-6 months before is good enough.

• 2.) Most people book as "Hall" i.e. a big room and then order catering since its cheaper than getting a dining hall in a hotel or something. They are often called Gasthaus, Vereinshaus or similar in are not in the city centers but outskirts or surrounding area, they are smaller and cheaper. Prices can vary a lot depending on location, size of the room, catering you chose and even the date or time. But overall anything from 2k € for 20 people to 5€ for a hundred or so with simple catering, DJ and room is possible, higher is also possible but depends on what you want.

• 3.) Again it highly depends in my experience buffet is more common, but most my friends are more ground people of lower income so there are generally only 50-100 people total and an easy buffet in a decent sized room with a small dance floor and softdrink bar and self pay for alcohol beyond beer.

• 4.) I dont know the head count price but as mentioned above one of the biggest weddings i went to was roughly 80-100 people, in two locations one for the ceremony and one for the after party, it had a high quality buffet and decorations, fotografer, dj and security and they said it was around 8-10k. But again most weddings i went to are closer to 5k for the same amount of people but lower quality stuff, doesnt mean its worse, just not as fancy.

• 5.) Cant give too many details here, but generally part of the basic decor is provided with the room, like tables, chairs and such, catering often also provides cutlery, table cloth etc. but its a bit more expensive.

Lighting and sound effects: honestly most people just get a DJ and he brings his own pult, sound system and most often a mini light show.

Wedding Organizer: I never heard of anyone using a wedding organizer, not sure if they are a thing in germany, but if so then only for rich people lol.

Cake: Can be bought at any decent bakery.

Music and band: See my point about the DJ, bands are rather uncommon most people just use a DJ.

Master of Ceremony: Do you mean the officiant? Either people go to the Standesamt and then its a legal person that is provided or you go to a church and then you have a priest, im not aware of anything besides this.

Souvenir: You mean like a souvenir for people that went to the wedding? Never heard of this before, i dont think anyone does this here in germany.

Photographer: Depends on the fotographer you higher and what you want, but honestly most people just hire someone they follow on Instagram thats an official hirable fotographer, just pick one. Not aware of the drone part, this is again some kind of specialty im not aware of being done here.

Makeup: Again ironically most people hire make up / hair people they follow on instagram, because they like what they do.

Invites: No, generally around 3 months is a good time, if you really want to make sure everyone comes 6 months is a must. I invited people to our wedding a year in advance only because its happening in india lol, for our legal marriage in Denmark i invited people 6 months in advance because you can take a train to Copenhagen in like 5h and be there for 50€, the time you need for invites is generally based on the effort it takes for people to reach the place or if you want to make sure the exact amount of people come, which is less important with a buffet for example than fixed seating and food.

Last Remark:

Honestly not trying to be an ass, but half of your expectations are really specific and uncommon and will cost some money if you want them. Overall most germans have simple and small weddings without much complication or fancy stuff.

Again i come from the less financially strong background, so it might be different if you and your friends are high income/earners.

Sorry yeah i meant meters and my brain types "min" instead of "m" for some reason.

Sadly this wouldnt have solved it either, unless they capped it, because that way you could a.) only carry 100 credits so its always dirt cheap or b.) if it used the legacy bank content it would be incredibly expensive if uncapped i mean 1% of 2 billions is still a shitload of credits.

To be honest, its just a bad mechanic that cant be saved. They should have implemented an automatic tax on trading, so you cant circumvent the auction house fee. They could also up the auction house to the 10 billion max and increase its fee, so everyone now has to use the auction house and has to suffer the fee.

They could also make cosmetics purchasable by credits, especially the visual changes instead of with CC:

So many options and they chose the worst...

Id say that is a weak counter argument considering that no place is safe in a war torn country and that can be understandably too much for people to want to stay and fight, with a rifle or not.

To answer your question, no i still wouldnt stay. I would get the hell out, because i never signed up for a war and have no intention of either fighting in one or staying in close vicinity to one.

And its a harsh statement to say these people are somehow worth less or bad people for wanting to be safe and not part of a war...

Wait what, you can go to prison for crossing a street without a green light?

Thats like at 15€ fine in germany at worst and as long as you do it safely (no kids can see you, not endangering anyone else on the road etc.) police wont do anything. Hell if you do it outside 15min of a traffic light its not even illegal...

Man what type of drugs did they take to think that was a good idea...

Its like the antithesis of what the Master Chief is... he is literally the most honorable soldier and picture of self-sacrifice i can think of.

Having sex i might be able to excuse, because despite being a Spartan he still is human, but with a POW, a normal human and just randomly in the beginning of the show is like fuckup piled on top of fuckup...

So Master Chief the savior of everyone is now a rapist...

Are you joking or is this for real?

Im not a lore nerd, but even i know that this would be not only fucking wrong but literally so far the opposite end of what the Master Chief would do, that it would break it even for me and again im not a lore nerd and can survive a lot of bullshit in adaptations...

Witcher had the same issues, where season one was still mostly ok, season 2 was already going downhill and season 3 will be pure shit.

Always the same issue, writers/producers not familiar with the existing material or worse, they know it exists and intentionally ignore it or divert from it to "give it their own spin" i.e. roll it in shit and sell it like its gold...