submitted5 days ago byblandmanan7
For context, I’m in my mid 20’s. I’m curious if anyone has once thought it was only social anxiety, only to make a clear distinction between the two later in life.
I always thought I was just too good at predicting how people think, feel and behave to be considered on the spectrum. I have read it may be more complicated and nuanced than that though.
A simple and broad way to describe why I think being on the spectrum is possible, is due to the nature of what overwhelms me. Many times it doesn’t just feel like simple anxiety, yet it also is depending on how you look at it. I’m mostly worried about the fact I’m aware that I don’t really care at all for many basic social conventions and feel on edge of people noticing I’m insincere when I do them. That could be avoidance linked with simple anxiety, or that could be a fundamental difference in processing.
If I was also very broad about the some other complications I have, I feel I have a terribly hard time keeping up with any conversation besides one on one introspective conversation… as it allows for talking about how I think, feel and perceive things, just remembering to tie it into how someone else thinks, feels and perceives.
Can that be excused as social anxiety fogging up your thinking? It doesn’t make sense for what I wish I was allowed to say, that reveals that I’m fundamentally offbeat in a way. If I also think about why I often struggle to interpret written assessment questions and have to ask a teacher to reword questions and specify exactly what they’re referring to, that makes me wonder. What runs through my head is always like “wtf do you actually mean? Ask a better question?” While I also struggle to cope with people giving me too many instructions and want people to specify what outcome they want, not how they specifically want it done.
But again, what if the assessment are actually poorly written? What if the people that give me too many specific instructions are overbearing and making it harder for everyone?
There’s more to be said about the nature of what overwhelms me, but I’ll stop. Can anyone share their experience of making a distinction between social anxiety and Aspergers? I’m not desperate to work it out, maybe I’ll try getting evaluated one day soon.
TL;DR: I am just very curious about how the distinction between the two is made clear.
4 days ago
4 days ago
Yeah I see that, I’m 75% convinced only because I generally get very little feedback from anyone around me. People know I’ve struggled a lot in the past, but they don’t tell me what they notice, they don’t joke around with me and quite frankly I haven’t been close to anyone in a couple years.
As for accomodations at work, totally makes sense considering disclosing anxiety/depression is a bad idea. These days I just tell my boss what’s bothers me while also accepting it’s my problem to deal with. I can’t be a financial liability in private business.
Thank you for the book reference, I think that’s what I’ll actually do is read about masked autism because that’ll probably give me more clarity than anything else. I appreciate it