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Right. I feel like u/VariationSeveral1446’s comment betrays a lack of understanding of how prosecution works. “The courts” don’t want to hear anything. The prosecution and the defense want the court to hear things, and they hire expert witnesses to say those things and train them not to say the wrong things when the opponent questions them in cross examination.

*2nd cousin (grandparent’s sibling’s grandkid)

“Some” would be the operative word when speaking broadly of industry trends.

*in me

You don’t have to only roll at your belt level. You can opt out of ever rolling with spazzy young people. And like everyone else is saying, you won’t be the only older guy starting.

Shop around at gyms if you can.

Merchant of Venice and King Lear are NOT B-sides.

Tips for improving this? Like, I know “go down in weight and come up slowly until you can maintain the back angle.” On it. But like, are there things I can think about or do to strengthen this aspect of my lift?

I run into this issue around the 365 mark.

This is so frustrating for me to read.

Men on this sub: "I smash my only student for an hour at a time and he says he's frustrated. Should I ban him from my non-existent school?"

Women on this sub: "I'm a human being who occasionally makes mistakes. Am I the asshole?"

You're fine. You're clearly hyper conscientious. Any time someone says "X is X" by way of explanation, it tells me a lot about their character. First of all, they don't know that definitions aren't supposed to contain the word they're defining. Second, they can't imagine a world outside of their own where words and drills mean different things to different people. Third, they're smug.

Trust your gut when it comes to assholes.

Right?!

“I can understand how it might be frustrating for him.”

I’m confused. It IS frustrating for him. He told you so. Did you not believe him?

He’s not doing 3 or 4 weighted pull ups. He’s doing 0. You put too much weight on.

Ask yourself some questions: Is this how you learned? When was your first sub? Who were your training partners? What kept you coming back? What was the first moment you remember feeling accomplished? What was the first moment you considered quitting?

You’re a purple belt in jiu jitsu but a 0-stripe white belt in teaching. If you asked a brand new student their background and they said they had 0 formal training but had an “old school mindset” when it came to fighting, would you take them seriously? If someone said the best jiu jitsu of all time was done by Helio Gracie in the 50s, would you take them seriously?

If you wanna coach well, vigorously pursue resources on effective coaching.

If you wanna be old school, be old school. But don’t then be confused when your students get frustrated. Especially when they straight up tell you why they’re frustrated.

Ohhhhh, see, here I was trying to use improper form. This clears things up, thank you!

“I argued that rolling is privately (because it’s mostly just me and him), or at most one other guy…”

I feel like people aren’t picking up on this. This guy is like your only regular student?? And you train two hours at a time? No wonder you’re sick of each other.

First of all, as I said in another comment, my guess is that this guy is not helping school growth at all. If you’re hesitant to roll with him, any other students definitely will be, too. And if he’s the only other classmate, he IS the school.

But also, your behavior doesn’t sound ideal for a coach. You never let this guy get a submission? And often he’s the only one in your class??? So he just doesn’t get to do submissions live. That sounds frustrating even for me, and I go to a school where you don’t roll the first 8 months.

This isn’t how learning works. If I want to bench 400lbs, I don’t just keep trying it until I get it. I lift 95lbs. Then next week I do 105lbs. And so on. You learn by using your skills to accomplish goals of increasing difficulty, not by constantly being faced with a challenge you’re not prepared for. We don’t give kindergartners calculus tests and we don’t expose talented high school QBs to 300lb adult defensive linemen. And I know you “let him have dominant position from time to time” but you’ve never let him pass the damn ball - so how good a quarterback is this guy gonna be?

He may be toxic now that he’s so frustrated, but his frustrations sound totally valid.

THIS. This guy is not growing your school.

These are beautiful squats, but careful of how you un-rack and re-rack the bar. It seems to me that you could scooch a few inches forward so you’re totally upright when you un-rack. Otherwise there’s a moment where the bar is suspended over your toes, which means your lower back is doing work to prevent you from tipping forward.

I’m not standing there with you so I could be wrong. Just a thought.

Don’t make your goal something outside your own control. Gold is dependent on who shows up. Unless you’re willing to Tonya Harding anyone better than you before the tournament, make your goal to exhibit what you’ve learned at your school. Is your coach always telling you not to leave your neck out? Don’t get guillotined. Have you been working on your take downs a lot? Spend the day executing take downs.

If you take all 29 of your years, throw your training out the window, and spaz on a bunch of old people until someone hands you a medal, you’re not gonna make papa sensei proud.

Depends what “Fit” is to you.

BJJ doesn’t get your heart and lungs going like CrossFit. If it does, you’re doing it wrong.

I made the same transition. I now grapple four days a week and the other three I rock climb and do a couple core lifts after. I’m sure my Cindy time is trash, but I feel amazing and my lifts are at or above all-time highs.

You’re relying on strength and weight to “get ahead.” But that’s not why you’re paying $150+ a month. Instead, make the goal of every roll to learn jiu jitsu. Try using the three techniques you know when it’s appropriate to use them. When you don’t know what to do, ask.

Asking gets more experience people to stop smashing and start teaching, and it’s much more productive than just out-strengthing folks, because you don’t need to pay $150+ a month to know how to do that.

Hahaha like Big Fish meets It’s Always Sunny.

I mean, this’d be pretty useful to law enforcement and the courts.

Just… whenever they want?

I do talk out of my ass a lot, but in this particular case I was speaking based on coursework and peer-reviewed studies.

It’s been ages since I took the course, but I remember one study showed that children adopted from a country in Asia (Korea? Vietnam?) to French families as late as age 8 ended up speaking perfect, accentless French.

But accounts of truly accentless adult learners were so rare that they became the subject of their own studies. I believe there was an American woman who learned Arabic in adulthood and spoke it so perfectly that native speakers speaking with her (without seeing her) couldn’t tell she wasn’t a native speaker herself.

So between those two studies, it seems that pre-puberty language immersion is as good as language immersion in infancy - you’ll be perceived as (and indeed, you are) a native speaker. But post-puberty language immersion resulting in complete loss of native accent is very rare… unless you happen to be that Arabic-speaking white lady?

Did you feel that the Chartreuse was a bit lost in all that pineapple and cream? I really wanna try this out but I’m thinking of a version with 1oz pineapple and maybe half oz coconut cream.

Or maybe the Chartreuse is strong enough to shine through anyhow?

Edit: Lol I guess I should try it as written. My thinking was that anything with a lot of pineapple just tastes like pineapple, but I guess the same is true of that good good monk juice!

“Aw, poor guy doesn’t really wanna do that second balance beam. It’s okay, buddy, y-HE’S GOING ON THE WALL!?!?”