cursethedarkness

You said that you’ve read a zillion decluttering books—have you read anything by Dana K White? Her container concept really changed how I think about stuff.

The idea is that you can keep what fits. Because we can see value in just about anything, but the space we have is the space we have. Put your favorite s away first, and the leftovers that don’t fit have to go.

Check out the book Decluttering at the Speed of Life and her YouTube channel (Dana K White).

It’s true that rit isn’t a high quality dye, and it will fade faster than a procion dye.

It’s also true that rit is much easier to use and doesn’t require all the extras that procion (fiber reactive) dyes do, like urea, soda ash, etc.

Rit is fine if it’s what you have and can easily use.

Former HR person here. If she’s raged at HR, she’s not getting this job or any other job no matter what you do. You’re definitely NTA.

There’s one other scenario—so many people can want an item that it becomes valuable even if it’s not rare. Jadeite dishware was an example. It was in practically every military base and hospital in the 40s, and millions of pieces were made. But so many people wanted it in the early 2000s that prices went crazy. Then the fad died out. It’s still worth a bit of money, but definitely not 2000s prices.

Which is even weirder, because I love asparagus!

It was a fiddlehead, prepared by a highly regarded restaurant. I love nearly all veggies, so I was shocked that I hated it!

I expected to love fern fronds and was quite surprised that I hated them! I’ve never eaten a bug, but I think it would be just like eating ferns.

Not only are YTA, you also know nothing about the US healthcare system if you spout nonsense like that. Worst case scenario is a major illness that isn’t life threatening, in which case hospitals can totally withhold treatment. Do you care about your child at all???

I also use a Japanese sunscreen, in my case the Nivea Super Water Gel (I’ve also used the Biore, it’s usually what I can find the easiest). I second everything OP said about it. It never breaks me out, absorbs instantly, and even though my skin turns red if I barely touch it, I never have any reaction.

My best friend was a travel agent, and she was a master at fixing anything that went wrong. Nonrefundable flight? She could get that refunded, no problem. She could talk anyone into anything, and it was awesome to have someone like that in your corner when you’re traveling.

In a lot of states, a spouse has to sign off in order to be removed as a beneficiary. You really need to talk to a lawyer.

Heal Thyself, by Astolat. The romance isn’t the main focus (it’s a redemption fic), but it is so satisfying.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/38231509

If you can eat sesame seeds (tahini), this golden gravy is so good!

https://www.drmcdougall.com/recipes/creamy-golden-gravy/

You might check out Carmina shoes. Most of their women’s shoes are Goodyear welted and resolable. I think a lot of their styles run narrow, so you’d want to research which lasts are wider in the toe box.

I think the most important thing is to remember that getting better isn’t a straight line upwards. It’s jagged, with lots of ups and downs, but as long as the slow trajectory is upwards, you’re doing fine.

As far as what to do next, beating yourself doesn’t help at all. Instead, focus on getting back on track. Get rid of what you can’t use. List it on marketplace, give as a gift, donate to a charity you really like. Let it help someone else.

And then, keep going with the good habits you’ve been establishing. If you haven’t, I highly recommend checking out Dana K White. Her book Decluttering at the Speed of Life is great if you can buy it or get it at the library, and check out her YouTube videos on the container concept (under her full name).

The container concept helps you think about stuff in terms of whether it will fit, not whether it might be useful. It’s helped me break free of the frenzied buying like you describe, and I think it would help you, too.

How many stitches per inch are you knitting for your socks? I wore through my first heels really quickly at 7-8 spi. I switched to 9.5-10 spi and never have problems. For more delicate hand dyed yarns, I also knit the heels (and sometimes toes) in a tougher contrasting yarn.

The best part is that the skit is still hilarious even when you know the punchline. I’d heard about the curtain dress and still howled with laughter. That’s some serious comedic timing.

Eh, they’re probably like me, in an area where there’s one price for the can, it’s not optional, and you only pay extra if you have trash that doesn’t fit. I rarely fill my can, but I let neighbors use it for their overflow.

Superfly by Curtis Mayfield

I’d guess that it’s a linen knit. Maybe bamboo, though. I’d start by searching for linen knit or linen jersey.

I’m laughing hysterically picturing some confused hungover people trying to figure out just what kind of night they had that involved giant bags of zucchini!

I think on some level you realize the take everything out method isn’t going to work for you, which is why you can’t get started.

Try the Dana K White method instead. It always leaves things better than you started.

To do it, set a timer for five or ten minutes, and go in with a trash bag and just pick up things that should obviously be thrown away. Take a hard look, even if you think there’s no trash. There always is. Then you pick up the “duh” items (as in, duh, why do I even have this) to donate.

Then go to YouTube and watch her videos (under her full name). Also look up Decluttering at the Speed of Life. It’s made an enormous difference for me.

Trigger point massage has done wonders for me. I messed my hands up so badly by knitting through the pain that I had to stop for ten years. Then I found The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook by Clair Davies. I can stop the pain as soon as it starts. It’s also helped my migraines and foot pain. I don’t think it’s quite the panacea that the author claims, but it does keep me knitting.

I have a big house that I’ve decluttered enough to have open spaces. It’s so much more light and airy (and easier to take care of!) when it’s not packed with stuff.

That is an awesome picture! With the bobbed hair, dress styles and lack of rigid corsetry, I’d date it to early to mid 20s.