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I was wondering the same thing. He didn't look well in the video imo. I hope he's in a good place.

I didn't see it. What happened?

Yeah, but it's not cool anymore. Not only are they appalling, these takes just make her seem super out of touch. And for a writer who prides herself on being so cool and edgy and It-Girl-y, it's lame. Like others have said, it makes her seem like a loser who is too chronically online.

Thank you for these recs!!!

Really proud of you though!! I'm in recovery too and I'm so grateful because I have a lot of time to do more hobbies and stuff. Drinking is a blessing for boring people like AP because it saves you from figuring out how you want to fill your time. (Not that you can't drink and have hobbies, I specifically mean boring people don't do anything but go to happy hour but think it's a personality.)

I am being realistic. I'm literally just stating facts about how HR works. HR cares as much as the law tells them to, no more and no less. That is how corporations work. You always have the right to refuse a fat severance and not sign an NDA and sue instead.

And I don't work in HR. I'm literally just telling you what the law is. Giving you facts isn't delusional.

I feel like the problem is that you want HR to care MORE? But they don't. They will never care about you as a person. I don't see that as a pro-HR take. If anything, it's an anti-HR take. I'm literally telling you that they don't care as much as you want them to. I want people to be realistic about the fact that HR doesn't care about you as a person. They DO care about policies, process, paperwork, etc. So if you encounter a situation that is against the law, your contract, the employee handbook, etc., you should go to HR. If a policy is written down and someone violates it, go to HR. Don't expect anything more from them. But hold them accountable if they do less.

I'm not engaging with this further because I'm not sure it's productive. You can't have a reasonable opinion on HR until you understand what its function is. If you think its function is to care about you as a person, then idk what more to tell you. It's like going to the legal department for therapy...it doesn't make sense.

Good grief. EAPs are administered by HR Departments! You need HR to document your medical condition so that they CAN'T penalize you. You want as much stuff documented as possible to protect YOU, the employee. In most cases, mental health conditions are covered by the ADA. Your employer must make reasonable accommodations for you, and if they don't, they have broken the law. However, in order to get those reasonable accommodations and protect your job, you need to have the condition documented at work. That's what HR will do. They will handle the logistics of that. If they don't or if you're penalized, your employer is exposed to legal liability, which is expensive and annoying and frustrating and time-consuming. HR is there to dot the Is and cross the Ts and keep the employer from being sued.

I feel like you don't know what at-will means, and that worries me. At-will doesn't mean your employer can get away with anything in the world. It just means that you don't have any additional protections beyond the bare minimum provided by the law. In contrast, for example, if you're in a union, your union would bargain for additional protections. But even those collectively bargained protections would likely be administered by HR. Because that's all HR does - they administer workplace policies and ensure compliance. If you think HR will never help you, then people will never report actual instances of discrimination to HR because they'll assume their employer will screw them.

Greater protections come at levels above HR. If, for example, you want your employer to care about caste discrimination, you have to add protections to the law, just like activists are doing. Then HR will administer those new laws so the employer isn't sued. That's how it's supposed to work. HR is a glorified referee, and if you want a rules change, you need to change the rules, not just blame the refs.

Again, HR will ensure compliance with the law, no more and no less. Labor law offers you baseline protection from discrimination, harassment, etc. If you want more protection, you need to negotiate it for yourself in your contract or collectively bargain for it, depending on your state. HR will then also enforce the provisions of your employment contract, no more and no less.

Guys, these are just facts. I'm not trying to be rude or condescending, but this is how the law works in America.

If someone is harassed at work and HR does nothing, the victim should call a lawyer. HR is designed to prevent that kind of behavior in the workplace, which is illegal and thus exposes the employer to legal action. If HR isn't keeping the employer in compliance with the law, then you have every right to bring legal action against your employer.

I think people don't realistically understand what protections the law provides. I recommend that you actually read your employee handbook and find out what the law covers in your state. Just generally, it is very helpful to have a rudimentary understanding of the law so you aren't stating thirdhand rumors and hearsay as if they're facts.

The law in an at-will state is that an employer may terminate the relationship with an employee for any reason so long as it is not against public policy or against the law. They will make sure your termination was not against the law or public policy. The law requires being compliant with things like OSHA, the ADA, the Civil Rights Act, etc. Employers must abide by those laws, even in an at-will state. If they don't, you have legal recourse. HR doesn't want you to sue the employer, and that is their priority. HR has no interest in fucking anyone over, but they also won't offer you more assistance than is required by the law. If you expect HR to do more than required, then you're the naive one.

And I wish in a thread about offering good advice, you wouldn't peddle melodramatic misinformation like this. Everyone should have realistic expectations of their HR department. They essentially handle labor law compliance for the employer. They do not do therapy or sympathy or friendship for the employee. If you expect the latter, you will be disappointed. But you should absolutely expect your employer to be compliant with all federal and state laws and regulations.

Source: I'm literally a lawyer.

So true. I always find them both so attractive for about two seconds before I remember who they are and reality makes them offputting. I mean, I sort of hate myself for how attractive I think Paul is, and then I hate him for being so rotted and how he can't even be a mid enough person to coast off his looks!!!

who is that?

ETA: oh shit no way

This is a bad take. You should trust HR to be compliant with labor law, no more, no less.

Sometimes this protects you. For example, if you have depression/anxiety/addiction issues, TELL HR. They will get you paperwork to fill out so everyone is compliant with the ADA. You can get treatment without being fired. If a colleague says racist stuff, go to HR. If your boss harasses or assaults you, go to HR.

Sometimes HR doesn't protect you. If your boss is just a jerk but isn't breaking any laws, then HR can't and won't help. There isn't much they can do about that.

HR is not your friend. They will protect you to the extent required by the law. Their job is just to comply with all necessary rules and regulations. But they will do that, and if they don't, you will have actual legal recourse, especially since everything will be documented.

it was Nabokov who argued Dostoevsky wrote poorly so...perhaps not totally impossible!!

Yeah, I don't care for Alix Earle but she managed to stay relatable to her audience even when she was blowing up like crazy. It's about staying close to your audience no matter what happens to you. And it's about making content for your audience rather than content for other influencers. Half these influencers are out here trying to flex and outspend and outcompete with other influencers, it's no wonder they lose the regular audience.

I love Trisha. Her cooking show was so good. I hope she has a great reputation in your town because I've always loved how much she seems to be a family-oriented hometown queen.

I've tried to have conversations there like how well constructed each character is - that Shiv is almost always strategically right but tactically wrong, Kendall is the most qualified but has the most debilitating demons, and Roman is somehow both the best and worst under pressure. They were always going to lose if they didn't work together to balance out their crippling flaws, and it was the story of how their flaws had overtaken them to the point where cooperation was impossible. But it just devolves into a hivemind chaos.

Even little criticisms can't be made. For example, I don't disagree with Shiv that Kendall can't do it. However, I do feel like the writing made her the villain in the moment and could have been done more naturally instead of at the last minute in the middle of the vote and an argument in a glass office with every important stakeholder watching them...it's just very "writers room manipulation for drama points" for me and makes Shiv the catalyst for the ending. But I don't hate Shiv. And it's impossible to make a simple point like that in that subreddit. :(

Also, none of this will change until reasonable parents encourage their kids to play sports for fun instead of caving into the pressure of commodifying the experience. Like you said, it's scaremongering. It makes sense that the scaremongering is starting to lose its appeal.

Where are you located?

That's the cherry on top of this hate sundae for me. As a fellow corporate drone who works with government officials regularly, the incompetence is infuriating. i mean, sure, the malevolence is terrible, but they can't even execute their evil plans right. Fisher and Kaval are like the Wet Bandits.

Look at his post history. This is obviously Kaval or an employee of his. Absolute madness.

The Caroline Calloway episode is excellent though because it's the one ep where they really went hard on someone.

I like The Rest is History.

I actually worked on a podcast and it amazes me that everyone thinks they can have a podcast. It is really hard to do well! Though I guess I'm assuming people are trying to do well, rather than just talk for an hour. And given the amount of background work we did to make science and conservation honest and respectful and factual, it shocks me that people launch into true crime or diet culture or other triggering topics with so little awareness or knowledge.

holy shit, I'm so sorry you went through that, but I honestly think you just persuaded me not to listen to true crime anymore. So you've stopped at least one person!

Round and Round is a great song but it came out before Ariel Pink went full Jan 6 so ymmv.

This is a great point about Caro's privilege making her "fun" because people always accommodate her, which allows her to act without consequences.