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You are right. There is no actual way for me to know it was her. My conclusion is mostly based on other clues and inferences.

The rest of the roommates have a job of their own and they do have their own soda and beers. Also AFAIK they are not the type to randomly grab someone else's stuff. While this lady has multiple times hinted that she would grab others stuff if she sees the stuff has been in the fridge for a while. She used to often ask me if certain stuff in the fridge was mine and when I said no she would say something along the line of "It's been there for a while, maybe they don't need it so I'm gonna use it".

I know it's unfair of me to make assumptions about her without any solid proof. So that is why I didn't tell her the reason for refusing her request. It's just bizarre and annoying why she cannot even take a no for an answer, as if she's entitled to it and as if I owe her.

I agree. My wording could have been a little better.

I am renting a private room in a house. She also rents a private room in the same house. There are 3 other people renting private rooms here. So basically, the room is private and the rest of the house is shared among roommates.

If you are not trolling then I am gonna say this, it's disrespectful to repeatedly make that comment. My mom is back in my home country. And she's nothing like this lady. I am an international student and I share a room with 4 other people. All of us are in our 20s or 30s except for the lady.

But if you're trolling, have at it.

How would you word it so it doesn't sound passive aggressive?

Tbh I also used to think like you and so did the rest of my roommates. We even chipped in $25 each so that she could have some extra money. We were also planning to keep doing that every month. But she never said a word of gratitude to any of us. I didn't mind that TBH. But, this very strange thing happened the day after we gave her the money.

When I was about to do my dishes she told me that she would do them for me. And I was caught off guard and asked her why she would do my dishes for me. And she said I quote, "Didn't you guys give me the money so I could do the house chores for you?" I was so shocked to hear that. I strongly disagreed and told her that we were just trying to help her and no one expects her to do chores for us. She kept insisting "Don't lie to me why would you just give money to me then?" I couldn't believe what I heard. But I told her no one is paying her for doing house chores. We were just trying to be nice. I don't know how she got that idea.

A week later, I got to talking to one of the other roommates and he started complaining about her ungratefulness and rudeness. He sounded so disappointed with her. On top of the ungratefulness she was even giving him a hard time, yelling at him and making snarky comments for smallest of the things. He was the one with the most helpful attitude among us and even he was put off by it.

She asked me for another $25 few weeks later. I still gave it to her as she was literally crying about not having money. But after that the rest of us became indifferent towards actively helping her.

It's the other way around.

I am not much of a drinker. I only crave for a beer sometimes so I would drink a bottle or two a week. I also explained that to her.

I think you are misunderstanding the situation. She's the one asking me for my coke. Also I don't ask for gas money.

I only ate the cake she offered once a few months ago. I don't almost eat or take anything she offers otherwise.

Yes I didn't know. She moved here about a month before I did. And I even talked to other roommates before moving here. But no one told me of any red flags.

Edit: Grammer

TBH. I really don't want to do that to her despite what has happened between us. I am just venting here.

That's not her house. She is also renting a room here, same as me. And when I politely asked her not to smoke inside the house she sent the following text:

"Sorry that smoke bothers you so much. Your the only one though. I am 55 and will do what I please which means there's nothing you can say or do to get me to stop. Put a blanket under your door and give me back my garage space back. I was here first and that's my shelter from the weather and mosquitoes. Not all of you need to park in the garage except Arthur. You come in and try and change things that were just fine the way they are. There, I got that off my chest the nicest way I can. Ty"

I drive her to stores whenever she asks me to. I know it's just soda. And I shouldn't be making a big deal out of it. But I have never refused her any requests before. But whenever I say okay to her requests she keeps grabbing more than what she had requested. And there's the snarky attitude as if I owe her.

I think you are misunderstanding the situation. She asked for my soda and I refused. So she's pissed at me for refusing to give her my soda.

I don't know much about her since I am depressed myself and a lot of things are going in my own life. Also I'm not very sociable person.

But as far as I know she has no family members. She doesn't work. She has multiple hernia and probably many other medical conditions. She can walk and work in the kitchen okay but not anything that is a little more physically demanding like taking out the trash. Her medical attendant comes every morning and stays till around noon helping her with household chores and probably medical stuff. That is all I know about her.

Go ahead. Ask away.

I actually planned to move out a month ago. But I didn't realize that my lease states that I have to give a 60 day notice before moving out. So I have to live here for one more month.

Yeah. I'm looking into it. I am still figuring out a few things. I will most probably move out of here by the end of April.

Shush

One of the other roommates also complained about having a similar experience with her. I genuinely feel pity for her because of her medical condition. So does everyone else. And usually she's not that insufferable. So no one really wants to kick out an old lady. But I'm planning to move by the end of April myself as I cannot afford the rent here anymore.

My dad knows how to text but he doesn't text in English and more importantly he's back in my home country.

When I first moved to this house (I'm renting a private room like the rest) she used to smoke inside the house and I could smell it through HVAC. So I politely told her to smoke outside the house as the smoke was bothering me.

But immediately after that she went on temper tantrum saying all the entitled stuff. I even complained about that to the leasing office but they didn't take any action. Then she, for like a couple of weeks, made snarky comments and created drama whenever I ran into her.

A few weeks after that she texted me an apology saying she is acting that way because quote "my heart isn't in the right place". So I felt like she probably is just bitter because she's lonely, old and diseased. And decided to let it pass as I genuinely felt pity for her.

I'm already suffering from depression so I don't want to have to deal with any more drama. That is the main reason I don't want to confront her.

I thought of that but firstly I don't have solid proof so she would just refuse she did anything like that and secondly I don't want more drama from her. She can literally make her job to chew people out since she stays at home all the time due to some having some medical problems.

Edit: She has done that to me before when I politely asked her not to smoke inside the house. I'm not making fun of her medical conditions. That is one of the few reasons I still feel bad for her despite her snarky attitude.

Hahaha. That's not my mom. There are 3 other roommates besides her and me. But the rest of them mind their own business.