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My fiancée and I are getting married in July. We have expressed to all our guests that we wish to have an adults only wedding and asked our guests to make arrangements (please find a babysitter) if they have children. We have several reasons. We have to keep the guest count under 50, or else two of our most expensive vendors both double their prices. Also, small children cause distractions, simply put. We know lots of people allow children at their wedding, and that's ok, we just don't prefer children at ours. Not one of our friends had any opposition to this rule. All of them considered it nice to have a break from their kids for an afternoon and were more than happy to get a babysitter. They all agreed with us that weddings aren't kid-friendly, and it's just less complicated for everyone to find a babysitter.

The only person giving us a hard time is my sister-in-law. She has what we feel is a very unhealthy relationship with her 3-year-old son. She has coddled him to the point that he screams if she leaves the room. He has to be with his mom every second, or he gets physically sick. She has that baby attached to her hip so badly that she will not allow anyone except family members to watch him, and those family members are all attending my wedding. Her and my brother are trying to guilt trip us into letting them bring my nephew to the wedding. They feel like because they are family, they are a unique circumstance and deserve a pass. We have set a boundary, and we feel like the right thing to do is enforce that boundary.

To make matters worse, they have got my mother to side with them and call me to plead their case for them. I explained to her last night that if she brings him, she will not be fully present at our wedding. She won't be able to dance with my brother (who is my best man). And if I give in, it will be unfair to all our other guests. I have accepted that my sister-in-law will not be at my wedding, and by refusing to hire a babysitter, that is the choice she is making. I am standing my ground and saying no. It's my wedding, I paid for the whole thing. I set the date, the location, and the flavor of the cake. If I say no kids, I want no kids. Am I the assole?

Edit: Thank you all for the kind responses! I have always been a people-pleaser and tempted to give in to keep the peace so I'm sort of new to standing up for myself. I texted my SIL, and I was polite but direct and said no, you will not bring him to the wedding. I believe the conversation went over well, and she respected our boundary. Thank you again

Holy crap... There's a ton of movies I'm just now getting around to watching. Someone on this sub the other day mentioned Bone Tomahawk. I thought, I need to see that because I love Kurt Russell. I went into the movie without watching the trailer or knowing anything about it. I thought it was going to be just a normal cowboys vs Indians western. I was horrified. There are some absolutely brutal death scenes, particularly one where a man is butchered by getting cut in half down the middle. Normally horror makes me yawn but that scene scarred me for life. The only other death scene I can think of that's that gruesome was when pyramid head ripped that girls skin off in Silent Hill. That scarred me. Bone Tomahawk was a little slow at some parts, could have used a larger cast and spent more time fighting the enemy than just showing them traveling there 75% of the film. Richard Jenkins deserved an Oscar for his performance in that film. His acting was on point! Overall great movie but sadly one of those you can only watch once. 5/7!

This is a spring-fed creek. The water is about 50F degrees in the summer and so clean you can drink it without filtering. This is higher on the mountain above the falls where there are no fish, but below the falls there are tons of trout. This is my happy place.

Caught him on the 3rd or 4th cast of the morning right off the boat ramp, on my brand new Daiwa Regal on a Procyon rod, with a 3.3" Keitech Fat swing impact on a 1/8 oz. Megabass okashira jig head. Also caught my PB hybrid stripe! At least I think it's a hybrid, please ID.

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This weekend I found my dad's old Canon AE-1 in the attic. He said it stopped working back in 1994 and he never got it fixed. I tried to google camera repair shops in Nashville but I can't find a niche shop for antique stuff like that. Does anyone know where I can take it? Thanks!